Back at the start of February 2017 Mistress K and I started hitting the gym hard to get ourselves in better shape. We did all the things that people do at the start of the year to make changes. We cut back on our food intake by controlling our portion sizes and reducing the easy options of just ordering takeaway for dinner, started on a routine of 3 days a week at the gym and tried to walk more (non-exercise activity thermogenesis or NEAT for those in the know). We both lost weight and felt much better for it. Honestly, the journey has been quite easy, and there's a very good reason for that. For every 2 lbs. of weight I lose Mistress K releases me from my chastity cage and lets me orgasm.
I'm a very incentive driven person and when we incorporate my kink into the mix it becomes that much more exciting for me and easier to stay committed to. Beyond just keeping my interest, it’s also helped our relationship by Mistress K having a very willing and dedicated submissive that will be in better shape and has more endurance. We’ve found that our play sessions have been longer, more intense and euphoric.
Can using chastity be a way to help you also lose weight? If you are anything like me, and enjoy a challenge, then this might be something useful for you. So how did this all get started?
As you might expect from the beginning of this post, it all started in January with the usual New Year Resolutions discussion. We like to be honest and review our relationship quite regularly (about 3-4 times a year) where we sit down and talk about what we're happy with, what we'd like to improve and some thoughts about the future. It's incredibly healthy to do and we benefit massively from it, maybe we’ll even write about it one of these days.
But when it came to our discussion, we both wanted to lose some weight and get in better shape. This happens every year after Christmas due to the extra food we usually eat around this period, and I’m sure most people have this conversation, but we decided we were actually going to take action. So that's exactly what we did...eventually. We were busy in January getting this site ready for launch and finally started our new regiment in early February of 2017.
So how did we ‘gamify’ weight loss? For Mistress K and myself, who both enjoy teasing and a build up, we came up with rewards for meeting targets. This is pretty standard for anyone trying to stay the course on a goal - we just used a kinky way of thinking!
On a Friday, we weigh ourselves and if I reach my goal of losing 2 lbs then Mistress K releases me from my chastity device and watches me masturbate to completion. After those few moments of glorious release, Mistress cages me back up. My goal is to lose 1 stone or 14 lbs then maintain my new weight, so I could earn my release 7 times over the duration of my weight loss. To add extra incentive, Mistress told me that I would be punished if I didn't lose at least 1 lbs each week, which we agreed was a healthy amount to aim for. My punishment would be 50 strikes with a cane, which the Mistress takes great pleasure in dealing out.
As I mentioned, I’m goal-oriented, so combining kink and fitness (kitness? Fink? I’ll continue to workshop the portmanteau) works well for me and for Mistress K and I believe it might be the same for those of you reading this, who are also looking to make changes to your life. Wearing chastity isn’t just a physical thing that you do, it’s about mindset and commitment and dedication - which also has a huge crossover with fitness. Also, you can do it by yourself but you have more satisfying results if you have someone else holding you accountable.
For me, my focus was on losing weight but maybe you want to think about your kink fitness journey in a different way - maybe you stay locked until you can squat a certain amount or run a certain distance without being breathless (from the exercise, there are plenty of other fun ways to become breathless). Being caged or having to wait for release means there’s a consequence to not being focused on your goals. It sounds corny but also not thinking about ‘releases’ meant that working out also became a form of release for me.
Now, speaking of releases or lack thereof, there is something quite critical for this journey - choosing the right cage. As I’ve mentioned in other blogs, I’m regularly locked up but not all chastity cages are created equally when it comes to exercise. You might think that you could wear any cage during your workout but having made that mistake, the memories of the aches afterward mean I have to caution you.
When choosing a device for longer term wear and for exercising, it depends on your chastity circumstances. Are you locked for multiple days in a row? Do you have easy access to your keyholder or own key and are you working out at home or at a gym? We absolutely recommend that if you are working out and regularly wearing chastity, you need to be able to unlock after a workout session because the issues of the sour sweat smell that can build up, you’re risking things like yeast infections without regular washing.
Also, the workouts that you’re planning to do can have a huge impact on the choice of cage you might wear. This is something that you should also discuss with your Keyholder, if it looks like you’ll need to swap cages regularly. For example, you might prefer the heavy pull of a metal cock cage in daily life - but this wouldn’t be our recommendation if you were planning to run long distances, swim or do a HIIT class. Just think about the gravitational force of a jangling metal cage on your member, not worth the pull and ache unless you are also wearing a jockstrap.
Most of my workouts are cardio based, so my time is mostly spent on the treadmill, rowing machine, bike or cross-trainer. I've worn my device to the gym plenty of times but most of the previous occasions it was when I did weight training so it didn't cause too much discomfort. However, it’s worth thinking about your exercising routine because the extra movement involved in more rigorous exercising like running or cross training can cause more friction. If the ring does start to rub, stop immediately and apply some KY jelly or water based lube to the inside of the ring. Keep some in your gym bag! Obviously if you’re working out at home instead of at the gym, you’ve got the freedom to stop and adjust and even unlock if you’re permitted to do so.
Personally, I used to wear the House Trainer chastity device but have moved over to the Hexlock version of our Hera device as my daily device, which has also been perfect for any workouts at the gym or evening walks. Occasionally with the House Trainer I would have to readjust myself slightly at the end of my workouts, but that was more for personal checks and comfort than necessity. I haven’t had the same issue with the Hera.
At the time of writing this 2 months into our weight loss I've managed to lose 10 lbs. and earned 4 orgasms. One week I lost just under 2 lbs., so no orgasm for me. Instead of getting disheartened it motivated me even more. I added an extra gym day to that week and upped my water intake instead of snacking. That week I really earned my permission to orgasm.
Much to Mistress K's disappointment I haven't lost less than 1 lb. a week so far, but it's definitely getting more difficult to shift the last few lb.'s. Using the rowing machine or bike after 50 strikes with a metal cane wouldn't be comfortable, so avoiding that is a priority.
If you've ever used chastity and orgasm denial as an incentive to lose weight or get in better physical shape we'd love to hear from you in the comments below. Let us know what your goal was, how you progressed and if it worked for you.
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Beth Barlow:
My idea for my husband is he needs to lose 90 pounds we set weekly goals at maybe 3 pounds a week and he is in chastity till all weight is lost. Each week he fails to lose 3 pounds I add a week to end of chastity
Mar 27, 2018
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